35 Ways To Say... "Bongga!"

Overheard from The-Orgy: [Topic: Coming Out]


At the risk of playing into stereotypes, I will dare consider coming out as the most macho thing a gay guy can do. - Jericho

I think that for people-like-us (plu's) this is our version of passage to manhood, only a bit more thematic. - Richie Dalope

Coming out is a journey. hindi siya natatapos sa mga salitang "oo, bakla ako." o sa kabilang dako "oo, tomboy ako." it is a continuous struggle, a continuous battle for the truth. - Desole Boy

We have demons, big and small, to fight, even before and after we come out of the closet. - Kiks

But the choice to do so will always be yours unless you wait for the time it will be taken from you. -Tobie

So my policy has always been: If they don’t ask, I don’t volunteer; but if they ask, I won’t lie. - McVie

I have never been out. Not to anyone. And will never come out. I will always be IN. - J

Mayroong mga mausisa at mayroon namang patay malisya. Iniladlad ko man o kusang lumabas ang aking kabaklaan, hindi na mahalaga. - Ms Melanie

Isnt coming out about acceptance in the first place? - Manila Raunch

I don't seek anyone's acceptance.... what matters is that i accept myself for who i am. that is more than enough... for now. - John Stanley

....for everyone out there who's afraid to come out, I'm not forcing you to come out, but let me tell you that when you do, it is at that moment when you realize who your true friends are and how much your family loves you. - Adam

Sa akin lamang, sa kahit anong sitwasyon, alam nating masasaktan at masasaktan ang ating pamilya sa oras na malaman nila na tayo ay taga sunod ni San Rio.- Boss Becky

Sa pamilya ko, hindi ito isyu. Di napag-usapan. Basta alam na nila. Yon na yon. Walang nagtanong, wala akong sinagot. Swerte yata ako at di bobo mga kaanak ko. - Mandaya Moore

Since I didn’t have the gumption to come up to either of my parents to boldly declare that I am homosexual, my plan was to leave them little clues here and there until it got to the point where they would have no choice but to ask me outright. - Zen Bitch

Your mother will always know. She may be in denial about it, but she probably knows. -Rocky

Mom, Dad, whiz ko na ever kayang mag hide cheverlu. Isa po akong sirena. - Ms. Chuniverse

(Mom) cried. It was heartbreaking to see someone as strong as her break down, but she had to understand that this was not something she could fix. It was not something that was broken in the first place. - Ex-Jason

Gusto ko maging masaya ka anak, tanggapin mo ang sarili mo na ganyan ka para matanggap ka din ng ibang tao. Di mo makukuha ang pagtanggap at respeto ng ibang tao kung hindi mo kayang ibigay yun sa sarili mo. - Miguel

I do not answer to anyone and I don’t owe anyone the definition of my sexuality. - Jaytee

Gender is a conception. A method and a label. A mere tool to create order, and by thus making the idea of it easily comprehensible. But where labels fail is when society defines the semiotics of these labels. - Red the Mod

Bisexual. Bi. Bi-yot. Metrosexual. Isang metro na lang bakla na. - Baklang Maton

I know I was different even when I was much younger, and yet I still had a hard time saying the "B" word out loud. - PJ

I am gay, and I am not ashamed of it. However, I don't think we all need to wave the proverbial rainbow flag. - Bobby Barbecho

Gaya nga ng sabi ko, masaya maging bakla, oo, pero mahirap din ito. - Buquir

You can't be sure now, you're just a kid. It's not an easy life, you know. It's going to complicate yours for sure. Maybe it's just a phase. - Dean

Coming out is a difficult stage. - Mel Beckham

It begins with a single step, a single step away and out of the closet, a departure from fear towards the terminus of acceptance and happiness. - Takeshi

Lisanin na ang aparador! Linisin na ang closeta! Lumabas ka na! Isa kang malaking dumi sa closeta! - Echoserita

Dumarating at darating ang panahon na hindi mo na maitatago ang katotohanan at kusa na lang itong sisingaw. -Edgar Portalan

It’s hard to be in the closet; almost everyone went through that, and from what I know, and experienced, your FAITH and prayer can help. - Von Draye

Sige na! Tanggap ko na. Ako na ang nag-out due to boredom. - Nimmy

So I can basically say that I am out, comfortable with my own color.... - Justinfinite

Ngayon na nabawasan na ang aking mga sikreto, pakiramdam ko ay nabunutan ako ng tinik na matagal ng nakabaon sa aking lalamunan. - Mu[g]en

I am quite uncertain of what it could be, but I am sure that it would now be less pretentious—a bit more real. - Thomasian Psychologist

Now that I live the life an openly gay man – my countenance is just a lot more relaxed – which I think contributes to my inward sense of being beautiful. - Lord Fernandez

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Thank you girls sa mga Major Bongga nyong words! I really enjoyed the orgy. Until next time. Vavooo!

The Son Will Come Out

[This is Lyka Bergen's contribution to The-orgy]

I dont even know what a 'bakla' was. As a kid, I used to play Jackstone and its Chinese version and was very good at it challenging my cousins Geraldine and Laura.

While my brothers and boy cousins play Jolens, I chose to play Chinese Garter with all the girl neighbors. I played Piko rather than making a toy truck out of milk cans. And I chose carrying a basket like going to the market over shooting a basket with a heavy orange ball. But, was it really a choice? I thought I was just being me and do things I enjoy.

As I get a little bit older, the teasing begins. I dont understand why people in the neighborhood were picking on me. Those people I dont even know. I remember asking my mom one night of why do they do that."Because you are different" she replied. I still didn't understand.

One afternoon, everybody in the clan was in our compound for a gathering. My uncle from Cebu came to visit us. He offered to bring all the boys to watch the movie, King Kong. I was so excited and so ready to go and felt sorry for Geraldine and Laura who cannot come. Until..... that Uncle told me that I'm not coming. "You're not a boy, are you?".

With tears, I ran looking for my mom crying out, "Im a boy!" and told her of what happened. She got angry. Towing me to see that intolerant Uncle but to no avail, he and the boys have already left. Mom tried to pacify me with a promise of us watching King Kong the next day but it didnt help my wailing. Cousins Geraldine and Laura grabbed my hand and led me to one corner. Then, right there at that moment, I understood what was really going on.

That was my first ever rejection as being gay. I so hated that moment that it led me to the thought that being 'different' is not a good thing. I tried not to be 'different' from then on but for some reasons I still cannot hide it. More teasing. More Rejections as i grow older. I tried more to stop it by denying what I feel, and not showing to other people who I am inside. I learned the art of pretending and like playing Jackstones, I was good at it.

Because of my bad childhood experiences as a Power Puff Girl, I turned out to become Spidey, hiding my true identity with an awkward mask. I opted coming out only to the members of The League of Extraordinary Very Gentle-Men who I think can understand me. It started with my very good friend, Plastic Man (Mama O) when we were in College. He kept on asking me who is this new guy friend I am always with. I told him, "He's my boyfriend". Those were my first ever coming-out words. From Plastic Man to Batman, my coming out was spilled to everyone in the group, who themselves shared their own stories too. I chose them because they are like me. People who are different, like my Mom's description of me when I was a child.

Today, despite of his different kinda powers, Spidey is still scared and wounded deep inside. Like his friend's Superman's Kryptonite, close-minded people making monkey out of him will cause him pain and weakness. So he chooses to continue to hide from the majority, including his own Family (whom he thinks doesn't need to know for they knew already).

Not a good defense, but the great Freud will comprehend. And yes, he still believes that the son will come out..... tomorrow!